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This site is not responsive because it uses iframes
I'm not sure on why you use iframes to generate the page layout. Maybe because of conflictions with code or just laziness, but iframes are not great for smaller device widths and should be more responsive. You can't do that when you use them.
I just wanted you to be aware that others may have this problem.